smack smack.

Smacking. *cringe*

My opinion, which is a work in progress. Full of varied experiences both new and old, plenty of positive ones and also some very bad mistakes there too. How thankful i am to be living an honest and very very humbled, forgiven life before my kids.

While there is a difference between smacking and abusing, the grey area is very very big, and i am so sure it differs for every individual, INCLUDING Each Parent and each of their children.

Smacking should never occur out of frustration. It should never happen in a place where the child feels threatened or embarrased. It should never happen because of pressure from other parents or peers who think your child is "out of control".
I do smack my kids. It comes hand in hand with forgiveness and a clean slate. It only happens when the boundary that was crossed, was a very clear boundary. It is never surprised on the kids, for something they didn't mean to do, or didn't know was wrong.
The discipline relationship i have with each of my children is different from the other. One child does not respond to smacking, he becomes more angry. One child needs space to process the events and then for it to be dealt with so that we can move on.
Before Smacking though, a lot of positive parenting needs to be in place. A lot of training and practising. A lot of rewarding and praise. A lot of speaking the love language that your child can hear.
I don't think that abusing or bullying your child into obedience is acceptable one little bit. But training your child to obey and showing the importance of it is. For example, running on the road? IMPORTANT. Turning on the telly without asking? not so important.

Thats my 2c worth :)